Baby: Welcome to my Mommy’s podcast.
Hi there and welcome to the Wellness Mama podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com. And this episode is a couple of subject that’s close to and pricey to my coronary heart, which is balancing parenting and entrepreneurship and instructing our youngsters monetary abilities. And I’ve talked about this slightly bit prior to now, however on this episode, I’m so excited to get to go deep on this with my buddy Gordy, who’s the writer of the e-book, The New Millionaire’s Playbook, in addition to the founding father of the Aware Thought Revolution, which is ctr.com. And he’s now a sought-after advisor, speaker, mentor, and coach to entrepreneurs and traders, in addition to a dad of three. And I really like that on this episode, we obtained to speak about integrating no matter we do for profession and enterprise with household life, moderately than compartmentalizing these, how one can put together our youngsters for monetary success, how one can put together ourselves for that, and the internal shifts that we will make that make a profound distinction in each of those areas. We additionally discuss tech use and display screen time with youngsters, how one can assist them develop a wholesome mindset for all of this stuff from a younger age, and a lot extra. So, let’s be a part of Gordy and bounce into the dialog. Gordy, welcome again. I’m so excited we get to have one other dialog.
Gordy: Me too. Thanks for having me once more.
Katie: Properly, I’ll hyperlink to our different episode for you guys who haven’t heard it but, which will get to go deep on numerous matters associated to what you name the brand new millionaire. And I really like that episode. On this one, I’d love to speak slightly bit extra as a result of the general public listening are mother and father. I do know that you’re as properly. You’ve got three youngsters. I’d love to speak about balancing entrepreneurship, no matter we’re doing within the monetary realm with parenting. And likewise, how will we assist our youngsters construct a strong basis of economic abilities in life? And like I stated, I do know that you’ve got direct expertise with this as a busy dad your self, however what recommendation do it’s important to different entrepreneurs who’re in that progress part, striving to construct a enterprise, and in addition making an attempt to maintain household as an enormous precedence of their lives?
Gordy: Yeah, I believe for me, the largest shift was integration and actually integrating my mission the place it’s not separate. Like I’ve seen numerous entrepreneurs who’re mother and father, they usually form of compartmentalize, and it’s like, okay, I’m carrying my enterprise hat now, and now I’m carrying my household hat. And that’s actually exhausting for me. And so, what I do is to me, my mission is my mission. So, whether or not it’s enterprise or household, all of it comes collectively. And so, a part of what that appears like is, you already know, once I’m occurring talking excursions or going to facilitate workshops or going to investor conferences, like I’m having considered one of my, not less than considered one of my youngsters with me they usually’re a part of it, and we’re strategizing, and we’re speaking about it. In order that they’re half, like, they’re a part of the method, and it simply makes it a lot extra enjoyable as a result of frankly, and I discuss this quite a bit, is like the varsity system, you already know this, the varsity system is just not actually equipping our youngsters in one of the best ways doable. I imply, it’s set as much as create manufacturing unit staff and rats for a rat race. And I believe like, you already know, if we simply totally depend on the varsity system to assist our youngsters change into thriving souls on this world, then I really feel like we’re doing a disservice. So for me, like, you already know, my mission is to speed up the evolution of human consciousness. And so, whether or not I’m doing that by way of my investments, by way of my companies, by way of my household, by way of my kids, prefer it’s all the identical factor. And in order that’s one of many issues that I’m at all times, you already know, filtering for is like, does this match within my mission? So, I’d say that’s like the largest factor for me is the mixing and never compartmentalizing it.
And likewise, together with your loved ones, together with your youngsters or your associate, in business-related conversations to the diploma that they’re . And this can be a little edgy to say, however I’d say that if it’s important to have your online business and your loved ones so separated, I’d ask you to query if your online business is basically nourishing you, and if your online business is really an expression of your soul, and is it actually a mission? As a result of if it’s not, then it’s exhausting, and it’s exhausting. And, like, if your loved ones doesn’t care or occupied with what you’re constructing and creating, I’d say that’s a possibility so that you can replicate and see, you already know, how do you wish to, you already know, have your soul essence expressed by way of your online business.
Katie: I really like that shift. I additionally deliver not less than considered one of my youngsters with me to many occasions and even to board conferences. And I’ve completed that for a very long time. And it’s, I by no means stop to be amazed by how extremely succesful youngsters are of understanding a lot from such a younger age and the way that turns into a part of their understanding and vocabulary a lot sooner than it was for me. And it’s actually enjoyable to see them now at older ages beginning their very own companies and getting into that world and the way they’re so a lot better outfitted than I used to be as an grownup even a lot much less at their ages. And I do suppose for teenagers, too, it’s a bonus. And I inform my youngsters this on a regular basis, It’s a bonus to know that earlier and to enter that world even whilst you’re nonetheless a child as a result of it’s much less frequent. So, you really have already got type of a leg up as a result of it’s much less anticipated. And particularly if they’ve a few of these foundational abilities that they be taught from us modeling them, it’s actually fascinating to observe.
And such as you, I noticed when my oldest was getting into kindergarten age that not one of the current college choices adequately put together youngsters for what a really unsure grownup future may seem like as a result of my job didn’t exist once I was getting into college. And so, once I labored backwards of how will we adequately put together them for no matter their future may be, I ended up with a way more first ideas abilities up versus data down method, which fortunately, the web makes quite a bit simpler than it will have been 20 years in the past. And so, I really like that you’ve got that focus along with your youngsters as properly.
And I additionally love that you just talked in regards to the mission-driven part of enterprise as a result of I believe this may be the lacking hyperlink for lots of people who don’t really feel fulfilled by the work that they’re doing. And sometimes, it looks like small shifts in our thought course of or in how we’re integrating with a enterprise or perhaps a job could make an amazing distinction, even when we don’t shift our total profession or shift into a completely totally different path. Usually doing type of like we talked about in our first episode, that internal audit of our ideas and our mission and our motivation may help us to search out a lot extra gratitude and success within the work we’re doing, even when it doesn’t drastically change. However have you ever observed that with all of the individuals you’ve labored with as properly?
Gordy: Yeah, it’s yeah, I imply, this has been so huge for for the work like so, you already know, a part of my skilled life is I run a enterprise capital fund, and I spend money on corporations which can be which can be mission-driven. And it’s been alarming to see even the leaders of mission-driven corporations are are doing the work on themselves. They’re not, they’re not really, you already know, excavating their very own internal shadow and demons to actually replicate their, their course of, their deeper course of. And so, what I what I’ve observed is that their enterprise turns into a byproduct of their very own consciousness. And so, a part of my work with them is to assist them join deeper to their soul, after which, you already know, do a few of the deeper consciousness work in order that the issues they’re making an attempt to resolve of their enterprise, if you happen to’re making an attempt to resolve the issues with the identical consciousness they use to create them, how do you anticipate a unique consequence? It’s like that well-known Einstein quote, we will’t clear up the issues with the identical pondering we use to create them.
And so, you already know, this, it was humorous, I used to be working with one entrepreneur, tremendous, like pushed, extremely pushed, A sort like extremely profitable, however he was having huge issues. And, and, you already know, once you, you already know, each stage of progress in an organization, you face new challenges. And he was at a degree the place he was dealing with challenges, each within the enterprise and in his private life together with his household. And so, as we’re sitting there, and I may see like his face, like his brow was crunching up, and he’s like, actually, like his, his physiology was like in a really constricted state, as a result of he’s making an attempt to resolve this drawback. And I simply paused for a second. And I stated, what does your soul need? And it was like his mind exploded. And I stated, and he’s like me, I’m like, when was the final time you related along with your soul? And I stated, do it’s important to e-book an appointment along with your soul by way of Calendly? Or does your EA need to e-book an appointment along with your soul? And he’s simply, he began laughing, and he had in his destiny, and his complete physiology shifted as a result of he realized there’s this complete deeper side of himself that he’s not tapping into, and once you’re not related to your soul, your, your instinct isn’t totally on-line. So, you’re simply making an attempt to make use of your cognitive skills to resolve issues, however your cognition solely has a lot bandwidth. And if it’s at all times being bombarded by the unfavorable ideas and the shortage ideas anyway, you’re, you’re preventing an uphill battle. So because of this, like, I’ve realized, you already know, every little thing could be a religious course of, particularly enterprise. And if you happen to deal with it like that, then your online business turns into far more than a enterprise. It turns into a mission. It turns into one thing a lot higher than your self and you then get pleasure from it. After which it’s like a recreation, and you then’re additionally enhancing and elevating your self. And by doing so your online business grows and shifts and adjustments. And that is how, once more, like household turns into part of it as a result of it’s all interwoven into the tapestry of your existence.
Katie: And I do know that as a dad, you’re additionally very targeted on serving to your youngsters on this journey and serving to them have a robust framework from a younger age. So, I’d love to listen to any ways in which you’re type of doing this deeper work along with your youngsters or making it a foundational a part of how they perform on the earth from the very starting. As a result of I additionally really feel like our youngsters are a few of our best lecturers. And after we mannequin for them, we regularly be taught the teachings in a a lot deeper method ourselves. So how do you combine this into your loved ones tradition? What sort of conversations do you will have along with your youngsters round this type of stuff?
Gordy: Yeah, so there’s a number of issues. One factor I’ll share that’s been actually invaluable for us is we felt numerous stress with screens and know-how with our youngsters, and we have been noticing that they have been beginning to actually change into overly consumed by their laptops or the tablets. And so, what we did, a pair issues we realized. One on simply on a well being stage was we realized that if we really offset their as a substitute as a result of as a substitute of taking the screens away from them, which I believe is just not the best reply, however we there’s a pair issues we did, one is we offset their display screen time with nature as a result of nature has a pure method of recalibrating the nervous system, particularly with the unfavorable ion vitality from like being within the ocean or seaside or forest. So simply serving to them even perceive that as a result of, as a result of they love gaming too. And there’s this one recreation. It’s a it’s I believe it’s a Mario recreation. And in it, one of many characters, he goes, “Adverse ions go,” is what the character says. And so they and so, for me, it was that excellent alternative to elucidate what are unfavorable ions. How do they assist your physique? Let’s go get unfavorable ions.
After which so, after we’re doing that, that opens up the area for dialogue and exploration. After which what I’m in a position to do is, I’ll present them what I’m engaged on in enterprise, and I’ll get their suggestions. What do you suppose? How do you suppose this could? And it’s loopy how good their concepts are. It’s like, it’s a method higher than a few of my very own group would have. So, I believe after which honoring them, honoring them for his or her concepts and respecting, respecting them and giving them that confidence for themselves.
And what was so cool for me was, oh, after which yeah, what was actually cool is, you already know, I only a couple weeks in the past, I used to be doing a keynote in Toronto with our mutual buddy Jim Kwik. And, and my, my 11-year-old son Jackson was on that journey with me, and he was within the viewers and, and properly, one was actually cool. He noticed me do a keynote and he stated, and he actually beloved it. He stated, Daddy, your discuss was the perfect, which is basically cool to listen to. However then I may see that he was actually admiring Jim as a result of, you already know, Jim has, you already know, he’s labored with the Elon Musk. He’s labored with all of the Marvel characters. So, and, and, you already know, they’re huge into comics, after which it was cool as a result of he after he was like, he was form of like, you already know, nervous to wish to join with Jim, and he’s like, I wish to ask him one thing. And I used to be like, okay, properly, come on, let’s go ask him. He’s like, I don’t know if I wish to, and I used to be like, Jim, Jackson needs to ask you one thing. After which, clearly, Jim’s such a candy man. He’s like, what can I aid you with? And Jackson asks him, he’s like as a result of you already know, Jim is the mind man.
And so, and Jackson has his mind, like, you already know, he’s, he’s cognitively good. However typically, that’s additionally his, his kryptonite. And he stated, Jim, how can what’s one factor I can do to assist my assist use my mind higher? And Jim goes, a number of instances a day, simply ask your self, is that this good for my mind? Or is that this unhealthy for my mind? And, and it was so cool to see Jackson get that data as a result of now, ever since then, he’s making use of it, and he’s utilizing it. And he’s even in his personal, like, ideations of whether or not he’s doing a faculty undertaking, or whether or not he’s taking part in a recreation, or whether or not he’s doing analysis, I can see he’s caught that filter. And never solely does he have that filter for himself, however now he has that filter for others. And he, so now a part of, and he informed me, he’s like, Daddy, I believe I wish to be an entrepreneur, I wish to clear up issues. And so, as a result of he. due to this publicity that he’s gotten. And so these are a few of the ways in which you already know, we’re holding area and having these conversations, and in addition not being connected. I believe that’s one of many issues typically we as mother and father do is we’ve got these attachments that we would like our youngsters to be these grand, wonderful, epic people that, you already know, should meet our expectations. And I believe that’s, that’s, that’s loopy, too. It’s identical to, you already know, honor them for who they’re, the distinctive stardust beings that they’re, and, you already know, unconditionally love them. And once you’re not unconditionally loving them, what’s it that you just’re projecting onto them? What’s the side of your self that you just haven’t but discovered to like? As a result of you already know, that’s a possibility to see how they’re instructing us that we’re nonetheless, we nonetheless must do our work.
In order that’s form of the, you already know, the connection and we’re at all times, you already know, asking them like what how questions like we talked about in our earlier podcast as properly. You recognize, we, we’d be as aware as doable to not ask, like, why did you try this? As a result of once you as quickly as you body a query, like, why did you try this, you’re already making them improper. You’re already making them defensive, they usually they their programming begins working as like, properly, one thing have to be improper for me to now I’ve to think about. However whereas, whereas if you happen to ask them one thing like, oh, you already know, how did that really feel? Or what are three issues that labored about that? Or what’s one thing that you just wish to have occur? Now rapidly, it’s extra of an inquiry, curiosity-based dialog versus, like, you already know, an emotionally triggered one.
Katie: I believe that’s an unimaginable tip that you just simply gave and the way you talked about gratitude as properly. That’s a apply we’ve adopted as a household is at dinner, we’ll typically go round and title three issues we’re grateful for simply to form of give them that lens of trying by way of life all through the day of, like, what am I grateful for? As a result of, as you stated, that’s the vitality of getting already obtained. And so, after we exist in a state of gratitude, to begin with, we find yourself being quite a bit happier typically, however I really like serving to them hold that as their focus all through the day. And I additionally love what you stated about attachments and the issues that we undertaking onto them as a result of I really feel like I had unimaginable mother and father. And I additionally felt numerous strain, particularly in academic-related issues rising up. And so, I used to be making an attempt to be very conscious of that with my youngsters. And I believe so many parenting struggles may very well be solved by merely remembering always that they’re every their very own infinite autonomous beings. And that’s considered one of my first ideas of parenting is they don’t seem to be mine, they don’t belong to me, they don’t seem to be reflections of me, they don’t seem to be mini-versions of me, they’re every their very own infinite autonomous people. And I’m not right here to assist decide who they’re. I’m right here to assist them uncover who they’re. And so, I really like that you just introduced that up.
Gordy: I do know from writing, I’m penning this down, infinite autonomous people. I really like that.
Katie: And I believe if we simply even hold that prime of thoughts in how we work together with them, it’s not us because the authority telling them what to do as somebody who doesn’t have authority. They’re already autonomous. And that doesn’t imply we don’t information them. However I really like your method in ask good questions, assist them be taught to ask good questions. And I believe if we construct that connection in a robust method, it removes the necessity for lots of the facility battle and the issues that numerous mother and father run into. So, I really like that you’ve got this ethos woven all through your online business, woven all through your loved ones tradition, that these issues are intertwined. They’re for me as properly. And I believe the extra individuals which can be ready to try this, such as you stated, we’re shifting on this very lovely acutely aware path as a society as a complete. And I consider strongly that it begins with every of us and with our households. So, I really like that you just’re bringing that message.
Are there some other key takeaways associated to the e-book that I do know we talked about extra within the first episode or to household tradition and parenting that you’d love to depart individuals with on this episode?
Gordy: Sure, however I’ve a query for you first on the gratitude. So, we’ve carried out the gratitude as properly. So, every single day they write three issues that they’re grateful for. But when that is what I haven’t discovered how one can assist, however the issues that they write are be like pizza, video video games, bushes. And so, I’m completely happy that they’re moving into the apply of gratitude, however I’m noticing that it’s nearly like they’re… and possibly it’s simply me judging what they’re being grateful for, so it’s my work once more. However I’m curious, like, yeah, is there one thing that you just’ve observed or that you just do to assist them actually get deeper into the gratitude versus like issues? You recognize what I imply?
Katie: Yeah, typically I’ll body that in three, typically it’ll be three individuals you’re particularly grateful for at present. However typically, it’ll simply be three stuff you’re grateful for with three deep the reason why and including that phrase deep. And it’s enjoyable as a result of youngsters join the dots in such wonderful ways in which I’d not essentially suppose to. So, they could nonetheless say they’re grateful for pizza, however then it might need a deeper cause of as a result of we at all times eat pizza collectively as a household, and I really feel related or I believe it helps them like join, like the place’s the sensation beneath simply the gratitude? Like what else does this hook up with inside my soul or inside my life? And I believe youngsters are such wonderful pure sample recognizers and that they join dots in distinctive methods. And I believe that’s simply a simple tip to assist them search for patterns in different places.
Gordy: That’s good. Okay, I’m gonna add that to, to report again. Yeah, so I assume the opposite factor that I’d say is what’s been, what’s actually labored properly for me is tapping into my very own internal baby with them and taking part in and never taking shit so critically, and actually letting my very own playful, joyful model come out. As a result of, as you already know, we in some way after we change into adults, we simply begin taking issues too critically. And so, the extra we will let go of the seriousness and, and fall again into play, it’s, it simply creates such a greater connection. And I observed that anytime that, you already know, I’m discovering there to be stress, it’s simply it’s as a result of I’m being too critical. I’m taking it method too critical. And so, if I simply remind myself to be like, properly, what if I used to be 10 proper now or 12 or 13? What, how would I be? And it’s like, it instantly shifts it.
So, I’d say use the chance to actually faucet into your individual internal baby and have enjoyable. Like, get pleasure from these moments, get pleasure from life, like play this complete factor is only a recreation anyway. So, play it to the perfect of your capability to have enjoyable, have which means, have objective, and generate abundance by way of laughter and curiosity. That’s yeah, that’s an enormous reminder I inform myself every single day, like play and have enjoyable.
Katie: I adore it. I believe that’s an ideal place to wrap up for at present, however hopefully, we will do extra episodes sooner or later. However I’m extraordinarily grateful for you and for all that you just’ve shared at present. Thanks a lot for being right here, Gordy.
Gordy: Sure, my pleasure. Thanks.
Katie: And thanks as at all times to all of you for listening and sharing your most beneficial sources, your time, your vitality, and your consideration with us each at present. We’re so grateful that you just did. And I hope that you’ll be a part of me once more on the subsequent episode of the Wellness Mama podcast.
When you’re having fun with these interviews, would you please take two minutes to depart a ranking or evaluation on iTunes for me? Doing this helps extra individuals to search out the podcast, which implies much more mothers and households may benefit from the data. I actually respect your time, and thanks as at all times for listening.
